Wednesday, March 13, 2019

What I've Learned Since Becoming A Mom

PC: Courtney Peterson

I thought that by the time I had 3 kids I would have this whole mom thing down to a fine art, but I've learned that definitely is not the case, at least for me. Sometimes I feel like just as much of a newbie as I did when I brought Rosalie home from the hospital. 

I feel we are constantly being bombarded with what we should and shouldn't be doing as a mother and while some of this can be so very helpful, a lot of it just isn't. I also find myself comparing myself to other moms and this isn't helpful either because most of the time I just end up feeling inadequate. 

One thing that I feel I have learned over the last 5 years of motherhood is that I am always going to do what I feel is best for my children. When I was pregnant with Rosalie and even after I had her, I had a lot of people telling me what I HAD to do. Even then, I felt like there wasn't one right way to do things. We all parent differently and I don't believe that there is anything wrong with that IF we are doing our best. We are given our kiddos for a reason and I truly believe that we are all they need. 

I don't care if you co-sleep or put your baby in their own room from day one. I don't care if you breastfeed, formula feed, or do a combination of the two. I don't care if you let your kids watch television or if you don't allow television in your home at all. I just don't care because you know what is best for your family and your children, NOT ME. I feel like we spend so much time judging each other and it just isn't how things should be. 

We as moms need to lift each other up instead of tearing each other down. We need to admire the good qualities each of us have as mothers, instead of comparing and criticizing. Motherhood in and of itself is hard enough, amazing, but hard, so why make it harder on yourself or other moms? 

I don't have all of the answers, and I know that I never will, but that's okay! My kids don't expect me to be perfect, heck, they don't even know what a perfect mom looks like...thank goodness! They know I love them, they know I am always here for them, and I am learning that it's okay if things don't always go as I'd like them to. 

I am learning that patience is not my strong suit, but that I am getting better at it as I work on it each day. I am learning that each of my children are so incredibly different and I need to give them the individualized love and attention that they need. I am learning that I can do more than I ever thought I could and its empowering. I'm learning that being a mother is the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me and I thank my Heavenly Father every single day for blessing me with my 3 amazing kids!

I know this post is a little bit different than my others, but I really wanted to share my thoughts because being a mom is a huge part of who I am. 

I'd love to hear some of your thoughts as well! I also wanted to tell you guys thank you so much for reading and following along. It means the world to me!


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