Wednesday, March 13, 2019

What I've Learned Since Becoming A Mom

PC: Courtney Peterson

I thought that by the time I had 3 kids I would have this whole mom thing down to a fine art, but I've learned that definitely is not the case, at least for me. Sometimes I feel like just as much of a newbie as I did when I brought Rosalie home from the hospital. 

I feel we are constantly being bombarded with what we should and shouldn't be doing as a mother and while some of this can be so very helpful, a lot of it just isn't. I also find myself comparing myself to other moms and this isn't helpful either because most of the time I just end up feeling inadequate. 

One thing that I feel I have learned over the last 5 years of motherhood is that I am always going to do what I feel is best for my children. When I was pregnant with Rosalie and even after I had her, I had a lot of people telling me what I HAD to do. Even then, I felt like there wasn't one right way to do things. We all parent differently and I don't believe that there is anything wrong with that IF we are doing our best. We are given our kiddos for a reason and I truly believe that we are all they need. 

I don't care if you co-sleep or put your baby in their own room from day one. I don't care if you breastfeed, formula feed, or do a combination of the two. I don't care if you let your kids watch television or if you don't allow television in your home at all. I just don't care because you know what is best for your family and your children, NOT ME. I feel like we spend so much time judging each other and it just isn't how things should be. 

We as moms need to lift each other up instead of tearing each other down. We need to admire the good qualities each of us have as mothers, instead of comparing and criticizing. Motherhood in and of itself is hard enough, amazing, but hard, so why make it harder on yourself or other moms? 

I don't have all of the answers, and I know that I never will, but that's okay! My kids don't expect me to be perfect, heck, they don't even know what a perfect mom looks like...thank goodness! They know I love them, they know I am always here for them, and I am learning that it's okay if things don't always go as I'd like them to. 

I am learning that patience is not my strong suit, but that I am getting better at it as I work on it each day. I am learning that each of my children are so incredibly different and I need to give them the individualized love and attention that they need. I am learning that I can do more than I ever thought I could and its empowering. I'm learning that being a mother is the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me and I thank my Heavenly Father every single day for blessing me with my 3 amazing kids!

I know this post is a little bit different than my others, but I really wanted to share my thoughts because being a mom is a huge part of who I am. 

I'd love to hear some of your thoughts as well! I also wanted to tell you guys thank you so much for reading and following along. It means the world to me!

Wednesday, March 6, 2019

Simple Ways To Keep Your Hair Healthy

We all want hair that is healthy right?! I mean I know I do, but I feel like there is so much information out there that it is hard to navigate what actually works and what doesn't. While I know everyone is different, I feel like there have been certain things that have helped me to grow out my hair and keep it as healthy as possible in the process. That being said, I am a mom of 3, I just had a baby, and yes I realize I am well overdue for a trim and some highlights, so my hair isn't perfect obviously.

So to start off, my hair was so damaged about 6.5 years ago that I had to cut it super duper short with these awful layers. It looked horrible! It was right after I got married and I felt so insecure. Thankfully, my husband is the sweetest person on the planet and just tried to make me feel beautiful. However, since that happened to me, I am super conscious of taking care of my hair. But, like I said, these are just simple things that work for me, nothing crazy.

Use Minimal Heat On Your Hair 

If you know me, or even if you look at pictures of me, you can likely tell that 99% of the time my hair has not been styled with heat. I almost never blow dry my hair when it is wet and I probably use heat on it 3 times a month or less. I am all about waves, braids, and top knots. Not only are these hairstyles quick and easy, but they help me to avoid damaging my hair. You'd be surprised how many hairstyles you can do without ever touching a blow dryer, curling iron, straightener, etc. 

Only Wash 2-3 Times A Week 

Gasp! I know, this probably sounds gross, but it works for me. My hair is oily, so I have to use dry shampoo in between washings, but it works like a charm and no one can tell that I haven't washed my hair ha. ;) This stops my shampoo from stripping some of the natural oils from my hair and helps to keep it feeling more moisturized. I also use very little shampoo on the ends of my hair whenever I wash it and mainly just focusing on getting the grease out of my roots. 

Avoid Hair Ties or Bands 

I know it isn't realistic to never have your hair in a pony tail, but when you do, try to use something that isn't going to pull on your hair and break it. I almost always choose to use a scrunchy over a hair tie or band because they don't pull on my hair nearly as much. There are so many cute scrunchies available now! I remember a couple of years ago when I was wearing them, I would get some comments about how it wasn't the 80s anymore, but we will just say I was ahead of the curve. ;) 

Brush Your Hair After It Has Dried 

This is actually a huge one for me and is something that I probably started doing about 3 years ago. I realized that it was getting harder and harder to brush my hair out when it was wet because it was getting longer. I felt like I was pulling so much hair out in the process and honestly it just hurt my scalp. I decided to wait until my hair was dry to brush it out and that has been a game changer for me! It is super easy to brush out once it is dry and I feel like I lose way less hair!

Like I said, these tips are super simple, but they have made a world of difference for me and have helped me to grow my hair out! 

I'd love to hear some of your tips!

Monday, March 4, 2019

3 Tips For Actually Making It To The Gym

He wanted to join in on the fun! :)

I am not going to lie, as much as I love working out, it is hard for me to get to the gym some days. I can honestly say that I always have the desire to exercise, but I know all of the work that goes into getting to the gym, not to mention my actual workout once I get there ha! I have found certain things that help motivate me and get there though so I am going to share them with you guys today! 

1. Preparation Preparation, Preparation!
If I don't prepare the night before, there is no way I am going to make it to the gym. I have 3 kids, one of them is 15 weeks old, my life is busy. In terms of prep, I try to get everyone's clothes out the night before, get our gym bags ready to go, and prep the kid's gym snacks. I also have a rough outline (at least in my head) of how the morning is going to go so that we can get out of the door on time. I know that if I go to all of the effort of getting this stuff ready, there is likely no way I am going to skip out on the gym because I have no excuse and because it took a lot of work ha! 

2. Take A Pre-Workout!
I swear by a pre-workout! I am a mom and I am almost always tired, so I have to have something that gets me pumped up and ready to workout. When I started taking a pre-workout after I finished nursing Riley it was a game changer for me! Now they have pre-workouts that you can safely take when you are nursing or pregnant, which is awesome! I take the Cara Loren Pre-Natal Pre-Workout and I love it! It is super clean, but gives me the energy and pump I need to get a great workout! And no, this is not sponsored, I genuinely love it!

3. Make A Commitment To A Friend and/or A Class
If you make a commitment to a friend that you will meet them at the gym, or to an instructor that you will attend their class, then it's a whole lot harder to let them down, then it is to let yourself down. I also have to commit to my kiddos ha! When I tell them that we are going to the gym the next day, they wake up asking me when we are going to go! This is great, except for when someone gets sick because then they are super upset with me ha! 

At the end of the day, if it is important enough to you, then you are going to make it happen! 
What do you do that helps you get to the gym?! I'd love to hear in the comments!



Friday, March 1, 2019

Is It Spring Yet?!

Top (similar)/Coat (similar)/Jeans/Boots (similar)

I don't know about you guys, but I am so ready for spring and summer! We have another storm blowing through our area on Sunday and the low is supposed to be -6! I am so looking forward to not feeling cold all of the time, being able to take Clint outside without being covered, and wearing summer clothes! 

That being said, I do love wearing boots and coats, so I guess I'll look on the brightside! ;) I wore this outfit to take Rosalie to gymnastics and honestly, it just felt good to be in something other than leggings or sweats! I was just thinking how important it is for me to get ready for the day. I feel so much better about myself and it is something that I do just for me. I feel like I'm not alone in this feeling and that many of you can totally relate! 

I hope you all have a wonderful weekend!



Thursday, February 28, 2019

My Favorite New Tanning Serum and Lotion By Golden Star Beauty!

Sorry I have been a bit MIA lately. Rosalie started off getting this horrible cough and cold a couple of weeks ago and then it slowly worked its way through our entire family. It was a very long two weeks to say the least, but I am so glad that we are all finally feeling better. Nothing makes you more grateful for good health than getting sick! I've said it a billion times, but having sick kids is the worst! 

Today I wanted to talk to you guys about this tanning serum and lotion that I have been loving by Golden Star Beauty. During the winter months I get super pale, and to be honest, I try to avoid too much sun in the summer as well, so even though my skin tans really well, I am usually pretty white. 

I love having some color though, so I am all about spray tans and tanning serums and lotions that actually work. I really like the Golden Star Beauty tanning lotion and tanning serum because they give me color without making me look like an orange Oompa Loompa, they smell good, and the color doesn't come off the first time your skin comes in contact with water, soap, etc. 

It is also super nice to have color on my face without foundation. My skin is super sensitive and breaks out really easy, so I have to be careful with what foundations I use and how long I keep the foundation on my face. So the tanning serum is a great alternative for me. 

If you guys wants to try out the serum or the lotion, I have a discount code for you that is 10% off! The code is: GOLDENSTAR11

Let me know what you think if you try it out!